She Said I don’t know….
“The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.” Ernest Hemingway
My son Alex posted this quote on Facebook a few weeks back and it stuck with me. In casual conversation most people ask “What do you do?” or “Where are you from?” I tend to ask “What do you want to do?” Mostly because I’m really curious about Soul Paths and people in general. I want to know what the calling was like, how did they answer it, what did it take to integrate into their lives and in what ways did they share the wisdom they gleaned on the way. It’s a tiny glimpse into the process of marrying the inner depth of who we are and how we express that in the world. But even more I ask because it inspires me to hear other people’s dreams, aspirations, and desires.
If you read that question and thought I don’t know/I’m not really sure, you are not alone. That’s exactly how most people respond initially. You see we are all so busy taking care of things our family, friends, work, households and the list goes on and on, that we lose touch with who we are and what we want to create. We lose touch with our Self.
Especially as women we have so many stereotypes that constrain us. If we don’t comply with the current stereotype – be it what we look like, how we parent, or what a relationship should look like, we feel a sense of failure. If on the other hand we implicitly comply simply because we think we should, we give away our own power. Essentially playing in someone else’s sandbox following the rules that they determine. This holds us back from connecting to our inner wisdom, celebrating our strengths, and even embracing our weaknesses. It keeps us playing small, fearful of what might be. By reclaiming the parts of ourselves that we have given away we regain our power and that affords us the courage and willingness to spread our wings wide and realize our hopes, desires and dreams.
My question for you today is, what do YOU want to do, to be, to create? How do you want to feel?
Take few minutes each day for the next week (say in the shower while you’re washing your hair), marinate in the question and let some delicious possibilities come to the surface. Jot down what comes up, even if it seems unrealistic or implausible. It’s a step in reclaiming your power, in reconnecting with your Self.