How to Procrastinate
A little over a year ago I googled flights to the west coast for the hundredth time, wondering why I was waiting. Knowing full well that if I waited for all my ducks to be in a row I would never go. I also knew that I would always wonder. In my work as a hospice nurse I learned a very important lesson: regret eats at a person.Most people don’t regret trying something, they regret not having tried.
Waiting is something we all do. It often becomes our excuse for not moving forward (my friend Kristen Moeller wrote an excellent book on this Waiting for Jack). We tell ourselves that when the right job, person, circumstance, or when so and so gets on board with it then we’ll move forward.
Not to be confused with timing, that beautiful art of opening to the natural rhythm and cadence of unfolding, so often in ways and at a pace that we do not expect. There is a profound difference in the quality of timing verses waiting. Timing is a natural unfolding; you feel it in your body, in your mind, in your soul. It’s a completely different experience.
Trust is hard sometimes. Waiting seems easier.
In reality it’s not easier. It takes its toll on each of us hindering our ability to tap into our full potential and fully experience each moment.
The Call to Adventure
We all get a nudge or urge to change at various points in our lives. Some of these nudges are calls to adventure, the beginning stages of deeper growth. These calls to adventure are different for each of us, a change in perception, a change in career, a change in location or relationship and for some a combination of these. One thing that is common to all is the uncertainty this call to adventure brings.
Here is where we employ waiting, sometimes for a little while to get ourselves used to the idea of change, sometimes we get stuck in it and it becomes the story we tell about why we aren’t answering the call to adventure. It’s important to be honest with yourself about where you’re at.