Here’s an Easy Way to Boost Your Happiness Set Point

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According to Wikipedia happiness is a mental or emotional state of well being defined by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. The circumstances of it are different for everyone but the core of it remains.

It’s an interesting thing, this pursuit of happiness. In the searching, it’s not often named, but there it is beneath the surface of the new shoes, the dream job, the relationship, and the great vacation.

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If you really think about it pretty much everything we do is because we think we’ll feel better in the having or doing of it. The having or achieving though is short lived and it’s on to the next thing. I hear people talk about happiness a lot.

What strikes me is so often the almost whisper that they want to be happier as if it were a frivolous or unworthy desire. I’ll save the myriad of health, well-being, and financial benefits of happiness for another post but in a nutshell happiness is a very worthy pursuit.

Happiness is a state of being. It’s not slippery or out of reach or insignificant. It is at its core vibrational. It affects all aspects of your life. And you get to choose it.

There are little things everyday that have huge impact on your happiness. They are the things we often overlook. Many people think you’re either a pessimist or an optimist end of story.

Not true, your happiness consists of the following three segments:

Your Set Point, 50% genetically/society determined happiness level.

Intentional Activities You Engage in, 40% how you act, your thoughts, and the goals you set for yourself.

Your Circumstances, 10% Your life circumstances or situations – things like health, finances, and relationships.

You can have the most impact in the intentional activity segment. Doing things like practicing gratitude, looking for the positive, eating healthy and exercise all boost your happy. That 40% has big impact on your life satisfaction and happiness level.

 New research is showing that you can also impact your set point. Increasing it directly by engaging in acts of kindness towards others. The theory is that helping someone increases your self-esteem, which boosts your happiness set point. This boost does not occur if you’re helping someone out of obligation rather than kindness.


Integration: Look for opportunities to practice random acts of kindness (include yourself too!) Things that would make you smile if someone did them for you are always a good place to start.

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