Breaking the Bondage of Fear and Doubt

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What if – You took the risk and followed a dream?

Research says  Just under 30% of us will achieve our dreams. The number one reason is fear and doubt.

A recent conversation with a colleague brought this to my attention. She is retiring next month at 56. She has decided to do what she really wants, even though she doesn’t really know what that is yet.

What she does know is that she will spend a month setting up systems for her aging parents, followed by 6 weeks of traveling with her daughters, then a travel nursing assignment, which she has always wanted to try and she says to replenish the bank account. After that no clue. No plan. Just an opening for what might evolve and a strong desire to live her life fully on her own terms.

We talked about choosing and how hard it is to follow a dream after a lifetime of taking care of other people, playing safe, and doing what was expected. Taking a risk and following your heart and exploring what makes you light up is hard. I can relate. It took me years to take my plunge. It hasn’t always been easy, but I don’t regret it for a minute. I hear people all the time say ‘that’s fine for you(her), but my situation is different’ and it is.

Each of us has our own unique story, but using your current story to paint your future keeps the status quo active. If you dream of something different, you have to create a new story.

We are biologically wired to be risk aversive. There are neuropathways in our brain that, when faced with uncertainty, activate the insular cortex. This gives us a strong desire to play it safe, to shy away from perceived danger. For each of us the threshold of perceived danger is different. Change or deviation from our normal behavior, situation, or experience is perceived as dangerous.

For so many of us financial fear is what keeps us in the status quo. Choosing to pursue a dream or make a big change can certainly have financial implications, and the uncertainty of those implications hold us back.

The uncertainty fuels fear and doubt. There are many methods to deal with this, all of them involve shedding light on the uncertainty and taking action.

Integration  Look at the last ten years with an objective eye to notice any recurring patterns. Identify patterns and take one action this week, creating new neuropathways.

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